I was watching The Notebook earlier today and after trying to gather my composure, and clean up all the tissues on the couch, I started thinking. How many couples get to reach the end of their lives together? Right up to the time they walk to the pearly gates in the sky. I know this sounds really morbid, but lets think about this for a moment. When you enter into a serious relationship with someone, don’t you want to see it go all the way? And no, I’m not talking ‘third base’ lol. You know…move in together, get married, kids…..the whole package? Isn’t that why you have a serious relationship? Through all of life’s ups and downs, you get to be there for each other. Give advice, support, cuddle…in sickness and in health…..til death do us part.
Just like the story of Noah and Allie in the Notebook, 96 year old Jeanette Toczko and her 95 year old husband Alexander from San Diego in California passed away in June, peacefully in each others arms. Recently both Mr and Mrs Toczko’s health had taken a turn for the worse. Alexander had suffered a broken hip and was already bed-bound. Laying in each others arms, the couple celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary and shared their final moment together. Mr Toczko died first on June 15, followed by his wife who passed away 24 hours later.
Their daughter Aimee Toczko-Cushman commented in The Express “Their hearts beat as one from as long as I can remember. He died in her arms, which is exactly what he wanted. She hugged him and she said, ‘See this is what you wanted. You died in my arms and I love you. I love you, wait for me, I’ll be there soon.'” I need another tissue…..so sad and so beautiful at the same time. Mr and Mrs Toczko were buried together at Miramar National Cemetery in San Diego. The lived together, died together and are now in heaven together.
Am I the only one who is sick and tired of hearing all the drama in the world, TV shows such as Today Tonight and A Current Affair telling us we shouldn’t eat that, you should do this, why are you not doing that? There isn’t a day that goes by when marketing guru’s and insurance companies aren’t reminding us of current statistics and how we must plan for the future. I for one am so sick of hearing about it, when ever I see these ads I feel melancholy. Yes, we should all be aware and live healthy lives….I agree. But to have it shoved in our faces dozens of times each day…come on! To hear a heartwarming story of a couple who lived a long happy life is such a sweet change.
It is a reminder to us, we really can have it all. I am sure that Mr and Mrs Toczko experienced many frustrating moments in their marriage, and I am sure at some point one of them would have contemplated throwing in the towel; giving up and walking away from everything they built together. But they worked out their differences and moved on. Now don’t get me wrong, if you are in a relationship where you no longer get along with your partner, communication has broken down and you fear living in the same house, then get out! I don’t think you should stay with your partner because you spoke a vow or made some type of commitment. What I am saying though is if you respect each other, would never lift a hand to each other, are kind…loyal….faithful……loving……then try and work through your differences. Life is fleeting, enjoy each moment, and if you have someone to weather the storms with you, then that is the icing on the cake.
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