I remember kissing a guy I dated years ago, it was so bad that I have never been able to forget the experience. It was like he was trying to check the back of my throat for tonsil stones. Maybe he was trying to show me how long and strong his tongue was, but all I could think of was that I didn’t want to die of asphyxiation. I still have a laugh when I think back to that night, I shouldn’t but I can’t help it. I am sure he thought he was Casanova, but all I could think was this must have been how Ellen Ripley felt 🙂
I am sure everyone thinks they are a fabulous kisser, that all they need to do is connect their puckered up lips to the surface of their loved one and their job is done. But I am here to tell you that if that’s all the effort you are putting into your relationships then you need a good swift kick in the tooshy 😉 Kissing is one of the most important aspects of any relationship. When you kiss your partner, you are exchanging emotions which sometimes can not be expressed otherwise. Kissing also tends to draw out a feeling of security as let’s face it, you would have got to know the person well enough to allow them into your personal space.
Kissing is a bit like riding a bike, if you are new to the experience then it will take a little practice. But if you have been enjoying the activity for a while and still wonder why your partner complains, then you have a problem. Kissing is about finding out what each other likes, learning each others responses and creating something wonderful. So when was the last time you thought about your technique? Before you lick your lips and grab your partner, check out my entertaining guide below and find out what your kiss says about you 😉
Think of Woody Woodpecker, he may have been an animated cartoon character popular with my mothers generation but I am sure he would have influenced an adult or two 😉 I remember watching videos of the larrikin when I was a child, the way he moved his neck was amazing. But if your partner tried that move, I wouldn’t be impressed. Giving a peck is like saying ‘I don’t have the time for you’. It’s quick but unfulfilling and for me, it leaves me wondering wth?!?
The Cheek Kiss
The check kiss is reserved for friends, and friends only. It’s too impersonal, if you want to give your partner something to think about, then this is not the way to go. When you greet a long lost friend or distant cousin, you give them a kiss on the cheek. If you want to get your lover in the mood, then this is not the way to go.
The Gentle Kiss
This is more emotionally driven. It’s like saying “I have to go, but I just had to give you this”. Gentle kisses can be given anywhere and at any time, and you don’t have to worry about someone yelling “Get a room!” They are meant to be tender, but they can be used to entice. While your brushing past each other, a gentle kiss can be used to tease and can even flow through into a little nibble….but we will get into that later.
The Single Lipped Kiss
The single lipped kiss is when you kiss either your partner’s top or bottom lip. This kind of kiss tends to be used during a sweet but fleeting moment, but it can also be a predecessor too so much more. I tend to think of the single lipped kiss as a kind of fork in the road. If your intention is to have some fun with a quick little kiss and move away then this would be perfect, but if you move your body in too close and the tongue comes out to play then be prepared 😉
This is one of those teasing, sexy kisses. It’s like you are trying to control yourself but your finding it a tad difficult. Nibbling on your partners neck, jaw and/or lips shows a strong physical attraction. It’s like they want to gobble you up but they are trying to be gentlemanly about it. I tend to think that those who enjoy nibbling tend to be the type who also like a bit of spice. In my experience nibblers like to experiment and enjoy getting a bit rough…know what I mean? They can’t find the bedroom, perhaps the entrance wall and head scarf will do 😉
The Sloppy Kiss
This is a great big no-no and I just got a great big shiver down my spine just thinking about it. Think of this one as swapping saliva…with no style! It’s a kiss gone wild and either you or your partner hasn’t bothered coming up for air for 2 seconds to swallow. Its like kissing drool central and omg – I have a picture of that dog….from Turner and Hooch the movie….YUCK!!!! Oh… I just wanted to gag – blah!!!! Sloppy kisses are yucky…gross… you need to be given a great big wedgie if you think it’s cool.
The French Kiss
Now this is what I call making love with your mouth. This is tasteful kissing without needing to give your lover a bucket! This kiss is all about exploring and teasing each other, it is meant to be sensual and passionate and when done right it is meant to make your lovers toes curl 😉 It’s about coming up for air, holding each other close and getting lost in the sensations and the connection. French kissing is about using your tongue, but not constantly. Sensuality is what you should be aiming for. You’re not a knight and your tongue is not a sword, you want to express how much your care, not try to slaughter the inside of your partner’s mouth.
Kissing isn’t just about your lips. It is also about your eyes, your hands and your heart. Listen to your partner’s breaths, and absorb those little moans of pleasure. Let those reactions guide you, but try not to be in too much of a hurry. Kissing is also about savouring the moment. Use all your senses and learn what each other likes. Unless your Christian Grey, take turns leading and follow each others movements. It’s about the connection and building the anticipation. You want to show your partner how much you care, and kissing is simply another form of expression.
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