Have you ever sang a song only to discover that you misunderstood what it meant? I was listening to Tina Arena this morning on my iPhone when I started singing along to one of her more catchy tunes called Soul Mate #9. After listening to the song on repeat a few times, I began to realise that I had completely misinterpreted the meaning of the song. I thought it was about finally meeting your soul mate, about realising that all your previous lovers paled in comparison when you finally met the right one. But this morning, I realised the song was actually about not believing in soul mates because men will let you down and lie.
It was a surprise to discover that Tina Arena’s song was more gloomy than I originally thought. And to think I was busting a few moves around the house this morning singing a song about love lost, not found. It was like a revelation. Tina…how could you do this to me? I loved that song….well, I still do… it is Tina after all 🙂 But now that I know what the song is really about, I can no longer sing at the top of my lungs. It wouldn’t be right. I want to sing happy songs, not sad ones. But thanks to her 2001 hit single, I was left thinking about Soul Mates and whether or not they exist.
Considering how happy Tina Arena looks these days, I would like to think she found her happily ever after, but does that mean soul mates exist? Quiet simply I believe they do. However I think we have become so damn picky and cynical that recognising a soul mate has become so much harder to find. We just don’t take the time to give the poor schmuck a chance anymore. I have read some of my friends comments on dating sites such as RSVP and Tinder and some of their reply’s have been awful –
RSVPGuy “I’m interested in learning more about you”
YoungWomansReply “Then maybe you should have read my profile or asked a question”.
Omg – he was probably a really nice guy, just trying to make conversation, break the ice and oh… I don’t know… learn more about you?!! But wham, he was blown out of cyberspace before the guy could scratch his head and wonder what just happened.
AnotherPoorSchmuck “You are an educated woman who likes to call people on their BS #loveit lol Would like to get to know more about you.”
FriendsReply “You had me with your wit, until the lol.”
What’s wrong with lol? I lol, plenty of people still lol. Aww sorry schmucko… drop kick to Pluto, coming your way!!
I do realise there are some chauvinistic, self-centred pigs out there. I am not going to lie and say that there are none, but not every guy is a dooshbag! I think some women tend to over analyse everything….what did his comment mean? Why did he say that? But I can honestly say that for every moron out there trying to wet his whistle inside everything with a heartbeat, there are a dozen more with a great big heart of gold. So why couldn’t one of those wonderful guys be your soul mate?
I think sometimes we loose track of what a soul mate is and what it means to be with someone whom we connect with on every level. Let’s face it, sometimes we settle for less. We spend so much time doubting ourselves that we settle for Mr Not-So-Perfect when we should stop putting ourselves down and go after what we want. What is wrong with wanting to be with someone who laughs at your jokes? What is wrong with finding a guy who gets everything about you, such as your bizarre routines and quirky habits? What could possibly be wrong with being with someone who gives you a sense of peace, calmness and happiness whenever you are around them?
It’s not just about respect, trust, faithfulness and adoration….you can get that from a pet. It is about all of the above and more, like not being able to imagine your life without them. It is about feeling safe and secure amongst all the stress in our lives. It’s a deep profound love that shakes you to your core and leaves you feeling breathless. I will tell you this, when you find all of that in the kindest of spirits, chances are you have found your soul mate.
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