When Flirting Backfires

What is going on with Australia’s female reporters at the moment? And for that matter, what is going on with the men in this country?!! We all know chicken’s are pumped with hormones so they can all land on our dinner plates a tad quicker, but maybe the farmers need to cut back on the doses because the men in this country are getting a tad too frisky. Or maybe it’s something in the water, or some new airborne virus. Or maybe its something much easier to explain, such as mens attitudes and assuming it is ok to behave in this type of fashion and that women should just deal with it?!! Well as Chris Gayle found out, you may think it’s ok to behave poorly, but it’s going to cost you – big time!

Channel Tens reporter Mel McLaughlin must have been wondering what was going on when she interviewed the Jamaican born cricketer, who was in Australia recently playing for the Melbourne Renegades. The interview started off harmless enough, until Chris decided to spice things up. After Mel innocently mentioned “Looks like your just smashing this innings” the 36-year-old player decided to take the conversation down a different path. “I wanted to come and have an interview with you,” Chris told Mel. “That’s the reason why I am here. Just to see your eyes for the first time….nice, hopefully I can win this game and we can have a drink after. Don’t blush baby..” Chris said laughing. As for Mel, she simply stared at the grass looking gob smacked. She recovered quickly though and returned the interview back to the game.

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When I first saw the interview I couldn’t help but think damn – Chris had some balls pulling that on live tv. Mel is a strong woman, I was waiting for her to tell him to back off – oh, I’m sure she thought it by the look on her face. Ever the professional woman, she simply lifted her chin, slipped her professional demeanour back into place and soldiered on. Chris in the meantime pulled his head out of his butt and thankfully let Mel finish her interview. But by then, the damage was done.

But it wasn’t just what Chris had to say that annoyed me. During Chris’s little banter you could hear the male commentators at Channel Ten laughing. Laughing!! Like the entire joke was just too damn funny. And that just pissed me off more. As far as I was concerned Chris crossed the line. It may have started out as a bit of friendly banter, but when he amped it up I couldn’t help but think he was crossing the line. Commenting on her eyes, going for a drink after the game…then the big one “Don’t blush baby” – BABY??!! I was like – w.t.h??!! And her co workers laughed…..laughed!! Chris was taking the piss out of her on air, live for everyone to witness and her co workers laughed!! You don’t do something like that, embarrass someone like that if you really like them. That’s private. He was playing a stupid joke and she was the victim of his silly game.

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Well, I am sure Chris wont be in a hurry to do that again. After that interview, Chris was fined $10,000 by BBL franchise the Melbourne Renegades for his behaviour. Mel’s co workers may not have come to her defence, but Cricket Australia’s chief James Sutherland did when he said that Chris’s behaviour was “completely out of line” and “inappropriate for the workplace”. Thank you James!!! But it seems that not everyone has learned from the saga. It has only been a few days since the cricketer was criticised for his inappropriate advance, now Channel Seven reporter Hamish McLachlan has landed in the sh** for flirting with his guest reporter, Miss Universe Australia contestant Monika Radulovic.

It seems that Mr McLachlan (not McLaughlin) was living with his head in the sand before travelling to the Gold Coast races this weekend to cover the Magic Millions race. I mean, really….how could he not have heard about Chris Gayle and Mel McLaughlin’s on air saga? Or maybe he had, and he thought he could do better?!! Because he certainly did a good job of making Chris Gayle’s exercise in flirtation look like childs play when he grabbed hold of Ms Radulovic and decided to push her up against his body! I think Monika couldn’t have explained it any better herself when she said “Professional please, my goodness.” Thank you Monica, exactly what the rest of us were thinking!

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What has gotten into these men? These guys are in the spotlight, an international sport star and national figures. Ok, I am going to put this out there – the problem with this type of behaviour is that it sends the wrong message. I have got myself into trouble over the years for allowing this kind of behaviour. It all seems funny at the time, friendly banter between co workers or friends – but when you don’t say something, and you play it off as nothing big (like Monika now has) it opens you up to either those same people, or others taking advantage of you. They see you as a bit of fun, outgoing…she won’t mind and before you know it, things have gotten way out of hand.

I will tell you this, men…real men, don’t do this. They don’t take advantage of you, they don’t show you up in front of others. They don’t move in on your personal space and talk to you inappropriately. They don’t make you the ‘butt of their jokes’. They want to make you comfortable, they want to get to know you and they wont disrespect you. Flirting is about getting to know each other. Learning about each other, enjoying yourself and having a good time. You can do this without grabbing, without being an ‘ass’, and without making someone uncomfortable. You want to build a relationship, you want to make it memorable. By not playing the sleazy card, you can be all that and more 🙂

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5 Comments
  1. So true, if some stranger said they travelled to come see my eyes, I would be outta there in no time. Too personal. And too creepy. Great article ! ! !

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  2. Flirting certainly caused the downfall of Ron Burgundy with Veronica Corningstone! Flirting is fine and even fun on to, but you don’t need to touch or get in someone’s face. It’s time these guys egos got knocked down a bit! Great article too!

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  3. you said it best ….REAL MEN don’t do that . Flirting in the right way the right time and the right place will be taken the right way with the right person. The examples you gave just shows that they have no shame and that despite the rules, despite the orientations on work place harassment polices people see it as nothing to cross lines including invading a person’s personal space. This has to stop!

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    • Thankyou. I wasn’t sure if I got the correct message across. There’s nothing wrong with flirting and having fun, but there is a time and place for it. Calling someone ‘baby’ in this situation wasn’t appropriate. Ask her off air if she would like to go out, not on live tv.

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      • Exactly. Real men use flirting as a way to gaugae interest in the right way. Not harass or embarrass a woman in public. I don’t get it with guys and I’m a man and I still don’t get how guys treat women with so little respect.

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