I have had a list of this months movie releases on my cork board that I have been looking forward to. I have already watched Nicholas Sparks latest romantic flick The Choice and the tender 1950’s movie Brooklyn, so when my eldest daughter invited me to watch the latest comedy film How To Be Single, I felt unsure. I didn’t think the movie would have much substance, or be that good. Don’t get me wrong, I love all the actresses in the movie but I didn’t think it would be a film I would enjoy. It is after all, a movie based on how to be single, why would I want to watch that? Well Caitlin convinced me to go, and I am glad she did.
First of all I will point out the obvious, How To Be Single is a really funny movie. Australian actress Rebel Wilson has most of the funny lines in the movie, as if we would expect anything else 🙂 Each time Rebel’s character Robin opened her mouth, the entire cinema would erupt into a roar of laughter. I can’t remember the last time I laughed so much! Several times throughout the movie I laughed so much I had tears rolling down my cheeks. During one of my outbursts, I lurched forward and spilled my small box of popcorn on the floor. It was a knee-jerk reaction that couldn’t be helped. My popcorn didn’t stand a chance with Rebel’s one liners and hilarious scenes.
Unanticipated though was the movies message …it completely surprised me. For the movies producers to list the movie as a romance was incredibly silly, it was anything but. Nor was it all about how to hook up with a guy, or how to party until your kidneys give up. There was a deep emotional message the movie’s writers and producers wanted to tell and I thought it was well done. How To Be Single was exactly that, how to be single! How many times have you heard a friend comment on how difficult it is to find a nice guy? Or where do you go to find a confident, sexy available guy? How many times have you made those comments yourself? Despite the fact that in the past decade, more women have been concentrating on a career than having kids by the time they are 30, most of these women still have no idea how to be on their own.
Today’s singles, between 20 and 30 years old, are so busy swiping left on their dating apps they don’t know how to go out on their own. And it’s not just the girls, guys are even more active when it comes to online dating. According to Choice, one of the leading consumer advocacy groups in Australia, more than half of each of the top Australian dating sites users are men. In July last year, The Daily Mail said that 1.5 million Australians, or 15 percent of the nation’s population, are active users of Tinder. That’s a lot of men and women hiding behind their smart phones instead of approaching someone the old fashioned way. It is also a lot of men and women who should maybe spend a bit of time getting to know themselves before ‘hooking up’.
How To Be Single is based around Dakota Johnson’s character Alice, a young woman who breaks up with her boyfriend because she wants to know what it is like to live carefree as many others her age do. Alice moves to New York were she gains employment as a paralegal for a prestigious law firm. It is while working at the firm that she meets Robin, played by Rebel Wilson. Under Robins wing, Alice is taken on a crash course of hook-ups, break-ups and how to survive as a young women in a ‘live for today, not for tomorrow’ society. During the course of the movie, Alice discovers she really isn’t interested in being with anyone. She would much rather be on her own. Not for the rest of her life – obviously – but for the time being she just doesn’t want to deal with the drama of dating 🙂 Alice has a list of things she would like to see and do and she would much rather do it on her own, and I for one think that’s fabulous!
How To Be Single won’t win an Oscar, but hopefully it will leave a few people questioning what they want in life. According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare, we are living 34 years longer than our ancestors did in the late 1800’s. There’s no rush to get married for fear of missing something. If you happen to meet someone who you think might be good for you, then go for it. But as far as I am aware, there is no meteor headed for Earth, the likelihood of little green men taking over the planet is infinitesimally slim, so have fun! It really isn’t that bad not having a man or a woman in your life…it is not the end of the world. You have your entire life in front of you, enjoy it!
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