I bet that title caught your attention 😉 I was laying on my bed yesterday afternoon thinking about all the different ways to inject some fun and excitement into Mitchell’s and my relationship. I had all kinds of sexy ideas running through my mind. My first thought was to send him a sexy text message, but I have already done that quite a few times. The next idea I had was to cook him dinner in my birthday suit, but that idea went up in flames when I found out he would be home late. I wanted to do something that would get his motor running, and just when I thought I had a good plan, something even better came to mind.
Remember the movie Pretty Woman? Remember when Vivienne (played by Julia Roberts) had dinner ready, and she sat waiting for Edward (played by Richard Gere) in that gorgeous penthouse wearing nothing but a silk tie? Yes, well that was my latest plan. So I drove to the local supermarket and purchased all the ingredients I would need to make a lovely Chicken and Leek dish. Our daughter was staying at a friends so there was no way our night could be interrupted. When I got back home, I made the dish and left it on the stove with the lid on to keep it warm. I lit frangipani scented candles on the dining room table and got ready. I even found the perfect tie – Red …the colour of romance, and the colour of seduction. It was game on 😉
Well Mitch came home and got the surprise of his life. I was decked out in my glittery heels, red tie and had my hair all tied up in a ‘Vivienne’ twirl. I wont get into all the nitty-gritty, but I will say this – we never got to dinner. I remembered the Chicken and Leek late last night. At about 1am I was standing in the kitchen, with the tie still on, putting the dish into Tupperware containers. I don’t know how I didn’t manage to choke myself. I guess that’s what happens when you’re experiencing sweet bliss, you nearly burn the house down! It wasn’t until the next morning that I saw the candles on the kitchen table, burnt down to the very bottom, no wax left…at all! Yikes….
So I got to thinking all about our fun night last night, and how lucky we both were that I didn’t burn the house down! Being in a relationship takes a lot of work. It’s not as if I am saving the world from the forces of evil or anything silly like that, but I work, Mitchell works…we lead busy lives. Sometimes I just want to lay on the couch in my comfy PJ’s, read a book and not be interrupted. Sometimes Mitchell doesn’t want to be bothered, and that can be a trap for both of us. Last night was fun, but it doesn’t happen as much as you might think it does 🙂
Familiarity can be a good thing, or a bad thing. As each year flies by, Mitchell and I know more and more about each other. The good and the bad – like I can’t sleep unless I am on my tummy and Mitchell can’t sleep unless he is on his back. He snores on his back, I can’t sleep when he snores, hence I hate it when he falls asleep on his back. It can be very frustrating, unless I am so tired that I couldn’t care if a plane landed on the roof! Like last night 😉 But most nights, it can get very frustrating, and that is why I read in bed. By the time my eye lids are joining together, Mitch has stopped sucking the roof in. It works, but not all the time.
Bad habits, the kids, housework and being in a relationship can be difficult. Throw in work, friends, family… Trying to find good quality time alone can be like finding a needle in a hay stack. But once we do find the time, it makes all those crappy days, and the nights when Mitch snored so much I moved to the spare bedroom, all worth while. Finding the time to ‘get it on’ is so worth it, and something we all need to do. You don’t have to make dinner and wear a red silk tie, but I will say this – making a bit of an effort can be wonderful for your relationship. Ask your partner to pick up some wine on the way home, while he or she is there they might want to take a stroll down the aisle that has all the yummy toppings. Chocolate sauce…caramel….what ever knocks your socks off 😉 Remember, every now and then to spice things up a bit. Remember, a little bit of fun and excitement can go a long way to putting the ‘ohh-la-la’ back into your love life.
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